This week, I had a very special guest on the show: my son, Owen.
For the last two and a half years, you’ve heard me talk about him, but this week I invited him on to share his perspective on divorce, two houses, and blending families. Over the last 10 years, he has weathered the storm of separation, divorce, moving, and eventually settling into our big blended family.
It was refreshing to hear how he sees divorce as part of his story, but more than that, there were a few mic-drop moments that reminded this proud momma that all those hard nights, unanswered worries, and divorce anxiety are no longer running the show. They are behind us.
Here are a few key moments from the episode:
- Divorce helped him become more adaptable to change. Owen shared that moving schools and adjusting to new situations felt easier because he had already learned how to navigate change early in life.
- Switching between two households was one of the hardest parts. He was honest about how frustrating it can be to move back and forth, even when parents do their best to make it easier.
- Kids feel our fear. One of his biggest insights was that parents worry enough for everyone, and kids do better when we don’t hand them all of that anxiety too.
- Small comforts matter. He remembered how important it was to have something tangible, like his Toy Story blanket, to help him feel connected and safe between homes.
- Blending families works better when it happens slowly. He shared that gradual introductions made it easier to build trust and feel less overwhelmed.
- Divorce didn’t break him. In his words, it pushed him further. Hearing that was a full-body exhale for me as a mom.
If you are walking through divorce and wondering how your child is experiencing it all, I think this conversation will bring you hope.
And if you want to hear more from Owen, send me a message. I’d love to know what landed for you most.
xoxo
Erica
