Why Being Heard is the Key to Healing After Divorce (and How to Get There!)

Hey there, beautiful souls! It’s Erica here, host of The Crazy Ex-Wives Club podcast. Today, I want to talk about one of the most transformative—but often underestimated—skills in healing: the art of listening.

If you caught this week’s episode with Erin Snow, founder of the Seacoast Listening Lounge, you already know how life-changing true, empathetic, nonjudgmental listening can be. It’s not just about being heard—it’s about being seen, understood, and accepted as you are.

Let’s explore what makes listening so powerful, why you deserve that safe space, and a few creative ways to release those heavy emotions (hint: there may be broken dishes involved!).

The Heart of Healing: Why Listening Matters More Than You Think

One of the hardest parts of divorce isn’t always the courtroom battles or endless paperwork—it’s feeling invisible in your own story.

When you’re spiraling, venting, or just desperate for someone to get it—but no one really seems to be listening—it’s easy to shut down. Erin and I both remember that season vividly. We carried so much inside, not wanting to burden friends or family who already had full plates.

Yet every one of us craves—and deserves—a space to:

• Release overwhelming emotions safely

• Be deeply seen and heard

• Process what’s happening—without anyone jumping in to fix, judge, or “should” you

Empathetic listening is active, not passive. It’s about presence—holding eye contact, offering empathy, and creating room for your truth to unfold without rush or repair.

What Is a Professional Listener—and Do You Need One?

Let’s be honest—sometimes, friends can only handle so much divorce talk before their eyes glaze over. Therapy is wonderful (and necessary for many), but what if what you really need is simply a space to be heard?

That’s where Erin’s Listening Lounge comes in—a cozy, judgment-free zone (virtual or in-person) where you can process emotions without needing a diagnosis, a solution, or even advice.

Just being truly heard can:

• Deflate anxiety spirals

• Release pent-up anger or sadness

• Recharge your energy so you can show up lighter in social spaces

Some women come once; others return monthly or whenever that emotional balloon is about to pop. The beauty is: there’s no pressure, no judgment—just support.

Letting Go: From Emotional Release to “Verbal Smash”

Sometimes, talking isn’t enough—you need to physically release what’s been stuck inside. That’s where Erin’s “Verbal Smash Session” shines.

Before heading to a smash room to break plates or splatter paint (yes, even on your old wedding dress!), you first process the emotion verbally. You identify what you’re releasing—betrayal, grief, anger—and then express it safely, both emotionally and physically.

It’s raw, cathartic, and healing.
It’s not about destruction—it’s about freedom.

Building Your Support Toolkit: You’re Not Alone

Healing after divorce is never one-size-fits-all. You might need therapy. You might crave peer connection (that’s what The Crazy Ex-Wives Club is all about!). Or maybe you just need a listener—a space where you can exhale, vent, and feel safe.

Here’s how to begin:

• Listen for the “full-body yes.” That spark of relief or curiosity that says this feels right for me.

• Give yourself permission to reach out. Whether it’s therapy, a listening session, or joining The Club, you deserve support.

• Remember: Your emotions are valid. You don’t have to carry the weight alone. Whether you need to talk, cry, rage, or break a few plates—there’s no shame in seeking help.

Ready to Be Heard, Seen, and Supported? Join The Club

If you’ve been craving a space where other strong, compassionate women truly get it—you belong in The Club.

Inside The Club, you’ll find:

• Real conversations with women walking the same path

• Weekly connection circles where you can share, cry, or just breathe

• Tools and resources to rebuild your confidence and joy

• Support from me, and from a community that listens with love

No judgment. No fixing. Just genuine connection and healing.

✨ Join The Club today  and give yourself the gift of being heard. You deserve it. ✨

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With love and grace,
Erica Bennett
Founder + Host, The Crazy Ex-Wives Club